Showing posts with label Wisdom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Wisdom. Show all posts

Henryk Goldszmit, his children and Dakghar (The Post office) - a curious link

 

Henryk Goldszmit

 Witnesses saw him marching forward with a young child's wrist in his hand, followed by the entire phalanx of his beloved orphans, dressed in their best costumes as if for an outing in the countryside.

Photo by Adrian Grycuk - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0 pl, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=62908535

 

Overview

Henryk Goldszmit was a world-famous Polish-Jewish author of more than 20 children’s books, a renowned teacher and educator whose reputation was known throughout Europe and beyond. He was often called Pan Doktor (Mr. Doctor) or Stary Doktor (Old Doctor).

Yad Vashem in Israel is the famous memorial to holocaust victims and one is overwhelmed by the multitude of people from different parts of the world the Nazis gathered and killed mercilessly. There is a connection with this memorial with Henryk, a man from Poland.



Henryk Goldszmit
Henryk with his loved children


Henryk's Belief

 

Henryk was an extraordinarily gifted man. A scholar and writer, he was also a doctor and a human rights activist, especially an ardent children's rights advocate. In fact, children represented the very core of his passion. Though he went on to write more than twenty books and a thousand articles, his very first book questioned the way most parents rear their children. 

At a time when corporal punishment was acceptable for parents to inflict upon disobedient children, Korczak’s 1925 masterpiece, “The Child’s Right to Respect”, was published, read in many countries in translation from the original Polish, and for this unique book Janusz Korczak was awarded a literary prize. 

He believed, for instance, that for a father to foist his religion on his child, instead of letting him or her faith later when he or she turns an adult, was nothing short of ruinous brainwashing.


He studied medicine and became a pedestrian in a children's hospital in Warsaw. At the same time he wrote for several Polish publications and gained a literary reputation for his adopted pen name Janusz Korczak. For a while he served as a military doctor and studied in Germany but eventually veered to head an orphanage for Jewish children. He invited a close friend Stefania Wilczyńska , to be his assistant and set about creating a new kind of instruction for children.


Henryk Goldszmit

Photo by  Nieznany/unknown - Maria Falkowska, Kalendarz życia, działalności i twórczości Janusza Korczaka, "Nasza Księgarnia", Warszawa 1989, Domena publiczna, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=26777496



Henryk's orphanage Dom Sierot, was a children's republic, run entirely on democratic principles, where all decisions were collectively made through its parliament and court. Henryk even hired a novelist, Igor Newerly, as a secretary to help the orphans produce their newspaper. Which came out as a supplement to a Warsaw newspaper.

Maly Przeglad (Small Review) and it was attached to the week-end edition of Poland’s largest Jewish daily newspaper, printed in Polish, Nasz Przeglad (Our Review) read by thousands of Polish Jews every day.

The orphanage under Henryk's guidance became an independent small country all for the children.
 

 

Henryk Goldszmit

Photo by Anonymous - http://fcit.usf.edu/HOLOCAUST/KORCZAK/photos/naszdom/default.htm, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=4788925

 


In 1933 the Polish government bestowed upon him the Silver Cross of Polonia Restituta, (Reborn Poland).

Each year from 1934-1936 he traveled to Palestine and was immensely impressed with the kibbutzim and, in particular, with the special care given to young children following the ideas of which he had written.


In 1936 he was invited to move to Palestine either to practice pediatric medicine or to be a professor in the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. But Dr. Korczak refused the offer because he would not abandon the children in his orphanage.

 

All hell broke loose on 1st September 1939, as Hitler invaded Poland with thousands of  planes and  tanks. World War ll had begun. Within months the Gestapo created a small area as the Warsaw Ghetto and forced all Jews to move there. Henryk was compelled to move to a smaller building in the Ghetto with all about 192 (ot 196) children and 12 supporting staff including Henryk and Stephania

The Ghetto Warsaw

Britannica.com states that 


As part of Adolf Hitler’s “final solution” for ridding Europe of Jews, the Nazis established ghettos in areas under German control to confine Jews until they could be executed. The Warsaw ghetto, enclosed at first with barbed wire but later with a brick wall 10 feet (3 metres) high and 11 miles (18 km) long, comprised the old Jewish quarter of Warsaw. The Nazis herded Jews from surrounding areas into this district until by the summer of 1942 nearly 500,000 of them lived within its 840 acres (340 hectares); many had no housing at all, and those who did were crowded in at about nine people per room. Starvation and disease (especially typhus) killed thousands each month.

Beginning July 22, 1942, transfers to the death camp at Treblinka began at a rate of more than 5,000 Jews per day. Between July and September 1942, the Nazis shipped about 265,000 Jews from Warsaw to Treblinka. Only some 55,000 remained in the ghetto. As the deportations continued, despair gave way to a determination to resist. A newly formed group, the Jewish Fighting Organization (Żydowska Organizacja Bojowa; ŻOB), slowly took effective control of the ghetto.

 

 

Warsaw Ghetto

 

The Irony and His Attachment

 

The tragic irony was that Henryk himself was a skeptic, and didn't believe in Judaism. He had numerous opportunities to leave Poland before the German onslaught, just as his assistant Stephania had departed for Israel. But Henryk didn't want to go anywhere where he could not also take his children.


Now, with his children, he was cornered in the Ghetto, from which there were weekly shipments of people to the murderous death camps, gearing up their killing apparatus. Henryk knew his turn and the turn of his children would soon come. How could he prepare them? What message could he give children ranging from 3 to 13?


It was then that he took an astounding decision. He was abreast of European literature and the Nobel Prize probably brought Rabindranath Tagore's name to his attention. He decided that his children would stage Rabindranath's play, The Post Office, whose central character was an ill child AMAL, surrounded by other children, who struggles to fashion a world of his own.

 

Rabindranath Tagore
Rabindranath Tagore

The Post Office (Dak Ghar in Bengali)


The Vocabulary of Emotions

The lexicon of emotions
Language skills support the required social-emotional by promoting the ability to comprehend and comply with behavioral demands, cope actively with learning challenges 
- Photo by Andre Guerra on Unsplash

Emotional Vocabulary - Overview


An emotional vocabulary is the set of words our children use to express their feelings and reaction to various events. It can easily be noticed that even before learning to talk they find ways to build emotional vocabulary. Language plays a critical role in social - emotional skill development. With the months when they started rolling and couldn't do it properly and cry then our response could be "Oh no no baby" etc. When they break their toys and cry , we may tell them "Oh baby , don't cry I will give another one " etc. Like these things go on.

When children enter school they face increased demand to sustain comfortably regulated and goal-oriented activities, inhibit negative behaviors and comply with rules. Language skills support the required social-emotional by promoting the ability to comprehend and comply with behavioral demands, cope actively with learning challenges and relate positively to teachers and peers as children learn to interpret their environment through language. Primarily through interaction with adults who model language and vocabulary and subsequently through self-talk, they begin to capture and internalize language and incorporate rules to guide their behavior. As children learn to use self-talk, they are both strengthening and using language to regulate their emotional and behavioral responses. Hence language and social-emotional skill development provide essential fundamental support for effective school management.  

Importance of Emotional Vocabulary


Parents use words for the strong and common emotions, children feel like happiness, anger and sadness, but we sometimes overlook the fact that there is a large and varied vocabulary of emotion. Children need a larger pool of words to draw on to be able to express all their emotions as well as to be able to read the cues that indicate other people feelings.

In the Research Article -  Developing Social-emotional Vocabulary to support Self-regulation for Young Children at Risk for Emotional and Behavioral Problems published in the International Journal of School and Cognitive Psychology emphasize that

self-regulation, essential to social-emotional development, refers to processes related to the regulation of emotion, attention focus and behavior. For typically developing children in literacy-rich environments cognition, language, meta-cognition and self-regulation develop together, as children use language for a variety of functions, including labeling and defining feelings. Children who have the vocabulary to express their feelings accurately can develop emotional literacy which is a key component of social competence.


Povert delays socio-emotional readiness
children living in poverty use language less frequently to direct their behavior or talk about what others may be thinking and feeling. Pic from the movie Lion

Unfortunately, children living in poverty have limited language experiences and are likely to have smaller vocabularies; and teachers in high poverty schools tend to provide significantly lower quality vocabulary instruction than teachers in economically advantaged schools. Consequently children living in poverty use language less frequently to direct their behavior or talk about what others may be thinking and feeling. and they enter school with significant delays in social-emotional readiness.

Being able to sense and understand the emotions of others is very important for a child's social development and social success. Children with these abilities can connect and respond with peers easily. This is the foundation on which the ability to create and maintain friendships is built upon.       

Emotional Vocabulary is a component of emotional literacy, which is necessary for children to regulate their emotions and engage in social interactions .Center on the Social and Emotional Foundations for Early Learning (CSEFEL) states that

A large and more complex feeling vocabulary allows children to make finer discrimination between feelings; to better communicate with others about their internal affective states; and to engage in discussions about their personal experiences with the world

American Psychiatric Association states in their research paper that  children's social and emotional competence can impact future relationships and overall mental health.

Why we need to increase our Emotional Vocabulary 


Knowing what we are feeling at any given moment is a huge gateway to emotional health. First part of this is developing an extensive emotional vocabulary. If we see across our surrounding, we can easily find that the majority of humans have a pretty limited emotional vocabulary consisting of about ten or eleven emotions. For example bad, mad, sad, good, fine, upset, anxious, happy, stressed, tired etc. Although good, bad, fine are not really emotions but people use them anyway; and because of this reason we limit ourselves to express how we are feeling.

Need to increase our emotional vocabulary
Our emotional health works the same way. We have to get an accurate, detailed picture of what we’re feeling if we want to be able to do anything about it
Photo by Swaraj Tiwari on Unsplash


There is a huge difference between feeling sad and hurt or feeling disappointed and rejected or devastated and bummed. It is the nuances in emotions that really make the difference.

Centre for Mental Health in the Workplace states in their paper Managing Mental Health Matters


Describing your emotional experiences can help you identify the sources of your feelings and determine how to make positive changes. Having a wide vocabulary of emotional words is a great start. Knowing a range of words that express varying levels of a particular feeling can also be useful in separating serious problems from not-so-serious problems. Because our thoughts impact the way we feel, the words we choose to label our experiences can impact the intensity of our feelings. For example, try saying to yourself, “I’m terrified about the meeting”. Now try, “I’m worried about the meeting”. Feel the difference? Having a large emotional vocabulary at your disposal helps prevent you from over-reacting to stressful events.

 

The ways Children learn Emotional Intelligence


Emotional intelligence or emotional literacy makes up the ability to understand our own emotions; the ability to listen to others, empathize with their emotions and the ability to express emotions productively. Claude Michele Steiner, a French born psychotherapist breaks emotional literacy into five parts :

  • Knowing our feelings 
  • Having a sense of empathy
  • Learning to manage our emotions
  • Repairing emotional problems
  • Putting it all together emotional interactivity
Of-course it is good if the ability to read signals and to respond in an appropriate manner was innate

Developing emotional literacy in kids
Children develop emotional intelligence by social interactions and the ways they are taught
Photo by Yannis A on Unsplash

but in reality it does not happen. Children develop emotional intelligence by social interactions and the ways they are taught. Few of them are challenged due to some mental conditions such as Autistic Spectrum Disorders, Dyslexia and other learning problems may require special care and extensive teaching.

In her Instagram post Mariana Plata placed emotions like

feelings aren't good or bad, all of them matter.

Kids catch very quickly when their parents react when they win an award at school or do good in extracurricular activities.       

In the other way around how their parents react when they got hurt while playing outside. or when they are having a tantrum or when they are sad because of a fight they may have with siblings or friends.

All that matter in kids mind and stored in the form of emotional literacy.  

Usually parents respond to behaviors and situations the best way they can. We know how to manage pleasant feelings such as happiness or excitement, much better than unpleasant ones. However, when somethings happen to their children they're unable to control, parents quickly enter an alert mode. Dr Dan Siegel calls it flipping the lid



This an analogy he uses to explain what happens when our rational brain disconnect from emotional brain.

In this situation, our brain can't function properly. Consequently, when we can't think clearly, parents react defensively to unpleasant things - those we normally call 'bad feelings'.

As a matter of fact, it is not surprising that kids are conditioned to see those emotions we dislike feeling as "bad". 

Bad feelings
Photo by Luis Galvez on Unsplash


And the scenario becomes even worse when we receive remarks like "don't feel bad"  when we finally get the courage to express these unpleasant things.   
       

Activities to develop Emotional Vocabulary


Teaching emotional vocabulary is often misunderstood and overlooked by parents and teachers. It is thought of as secondary teaching other language, literacy, and academic skills. This practice may have an overall impact on a child's development. Children learn from teaching, but they also absorb the lessons from the experience of the surroundings.

To develop the foundation of emotional literacy like any other vocabulary words, emotional vocabulary can be taught. Educators and parents can use a number of evidence-based strategies. Some of them are :

  • Listing of words of feelings - share and brainstorm with our children
  • Add various sounds that may be related to certain feeling like "Oh God" for a unfulfilled wish
  • Reading story book for our children and interact with them
  • Playing fun game with our children and share various emotions during play.
  • Sing songs with them (a regular prayer song is very helpful)
  • Directing/telling children few certain words to a given situation
  • Role-playing and reviewing in a certain situation or a character

     

Conclusion


It's important to develop an emotional vocabulary because it helps us have more answers than good or bad feelings when we are asked how are we doing. Gibing a moral value like good or bad to our feelings only reinforces shame and guilt, which handicaps our ability to identify and recognize our feelings. When we allow shame and guilt into our state of expression, we have a higher risk of repressing our feelings and limiting our emotional expressions.

 an emotional vocabulary  - and it's never too early or too late to start
With kids parents and teachers can grow their own emotional vocabulary and vice versa


The earlier we develop an emotional vocabulary  - and it's never too early or too late to start - the better our chances of cultivating emotional maturity and inner strength.

With kids parents and teachers can grow their own emotional vocabulary and vice versa.. The more extensive our emotional vocabulary., the more attuned we can become with other people's needs and feelings.           
   
         

Related Articles in this Blog 


Phenomenon of Left Brain and Right Brain

Phenomenon of Left-brained and Right-brained Functions

Math Anxiety - remedies

How to Conquer Math Anxiety

   


Henryk Goldszmit, his children and Dakghar (The Post office) - a curious link

   Witnesses saw him marching forward with a young child's wrist in his hand, followed by the entire phalanx of his beloved orphans,...